Need some advice about parents and bjj?

I really want to do bjj im 16 but can't seem to get my parents to let me do bjj they say one its way to dangerous and two its to much money for me to just quit which they think i will do. the academy i want to join cost if i do a 2 year membership 109 a month so any advice on how i can convince themNeed some advice about parents and bjj?
First you have to show them that you are ready to commit. You are 16 and it's time to be responsible. Prove that you are by giving something in order to get something - here's an example:





Tell them that you will do something around the house for a month in exchange for letting you enroll - you can mow the yard once a week, vaccuum once a week, and take the trash out once a week. That may be enough to earn your lessons. Make up a little contract and sign it - they'll appreciate your seriousness!





In addition I would show them that you want it by exercising for one hour 2 or 3 days a week and keeping a chart of it. That's how long you'll be training for most likely, so it's a reasonable equivalent to BJJ class. Just do simple exercises that you don't need training for - jog, jump rope, pushups, etc. If you show them that you aren't a quitter for 1 month you should be able to convince them that you are ready for a try at some training.





As far as the safety part - BJJ is really safe. Do some reasearch to show them. There are rarely ever major injuries, even in tournament fights with BJJ. You may get some bruises, pulled muscles, etc. but nothing really debilitating. You could even ask a trainer at the gym you want to enroll in to talk to your folks. I bet they've never even had a broken arm at their school (maybe a bloody nose or 2 but so what?) Again, proving something is better than begging, and will show them that you are sincere. I bet that will be enough to convince them to let you try.





And what does all this cost you? Nothing - you can vacuum, mow, and take out the trash in just over an hour probably. That's 4-5 hours a month. That's a tiny sacrifice to get something you really want, especially since it would probably take you 15 hours a month plus gas, a car, and insurance to earn the money for lessons yourself...Need some advice about parents and bjj?
That seems to be a lot of tuition for a martial arts school. Do you have a job to support that? That would show your parents you are serious, committed and responsible. Put yourself through martial arts school.


Besides if you commit to a 2 year membership what happens if you want or even need to quit? Paying $109 for 2 years is a lot of money especially should you be unable to train due to school, an emergency situation at home or even an injury. I tend to agree with your parents there because you are a minor they will have to sign the contract and are responsible for the payment of it if you do not follow through.


Try to look at other schools. It might be easier to convince your parents if you found something a little more reasonably priced. I would.
You cannot convince them. They are looking at committing to over $2600 for a hobby when you should be thinking about saving money for college.





If they think you're going to quit and stick them with a bill for something that you're not even doing, they may know you a lot better than any of us do.





Start nagging them about it and you're just going to make them dig their heels in more. It's their money so I'd drop it for now.





If you really want to do it, then wait two years until you're 18. Get a job, move out of your parents' house, and spend your money as you see fit.
Unless it is taught by a Gracie then the amount is way too expensive.





Also I don't know you, but do you have a habit of starting things and not following through? If you do that is probably why your parents wont go for it. If this is the case start with something smaller, and show them you can commit and follow through with stuff.
109 is a good price. they place i go have a bjj class for 135 a month.





take your parents to the gym. have them talk to the instructor and watch a class. when they see that its a very safe and controled sport they will porbably change their mind.





as for the quitting at first only pay for a month. dont jump to the 2 year deal. join for a month and if your really into it and your parents see that they will pay for more. but if your not really as into it as you thought you would be then you didnt just waste abunch of money
hi. i'm fourteen and ive been doing bjj for 8 months,


109 is a bit i've been going to one class per wekk with my two brothers and thats coast 40 bucks but my trainer is a local and he has heaps of class's maybe you should have a really good look at all the classs in your area anyways


bjj is a lil dangours maybe, i dont think so im the only girl in the class and i have a blast maybe you can get your parents to have a go? sounds weird but its might help, if not promise them you wont quite or say another way is to well kinda sign a contract thing? say you will not leave for nine months minimum, you will get hurt i've forgotten to tap a couple of times just before i got cuaght in an armbar and my elbow is hurt and its not going to get fixed for a while but its worht it,


i htink i you show that you really are serious about this they migth let you go, i mean my seven year old brother does this im sure you would be aloud to.
well first off you can find a way cheaper place i bet


mine is 500 for a full year (no monthly payment)





And i started at 15, i let my parents go in and watch a class, after watching they did not think it was too dangerous but more controlled
idk man. 109 dollars a month is pricey. the one I go to is about 70 a month. kinda hard to convince with that price....





I say, you tell them your gonna pay for half or all of it.(prolly have to get a job) and show them a cool vid of bjj like a demonstration or sumthin.
$109 a month is a lot of money. I can understand the concerns with the financial aspect alone. Perhaps talk about paying for part of it yourself. Might help ease their mind with the money aspect.
make sure they know that BJJ is not about striking, and in a gym it's very controlled it's not like you are out fighting at bars and stuff.
buy a book and learn it you can save a lot of money by learning how to fight from a book especially mine





buy my book
k as for price i aint sure


as for convincing your parents to let you do martial arts.





show them what it really is


1) its in a safe enviorment


2) a valuable asset to have


3) the philosphy etc behind it


4) make them see you watching martial arts dvds etc


5) talk to them about something martial art based that you read today on the internet etc


6) show your dad where some guy used BJJ in a street to fend off etc





basically persist at them non stop like you did as a child.





as for the price like i said i don't know if that is good/bad


mine isnt that dear but you may be doing more then once/twice a week





as for the dangerous part show bring your mam (preferabbly they worry more) down to the dojo have her talk to the instructor





these guys are like excellent at dealing with the over worried parents about oh i don't want my son learning how to choke somebody or i don't want him getting in street fights etc.





anyways most places kick you out of the dojo if you get into regular fights.





best of luck with it